Don’t fool yourself … your customers don’t care about you.

Your customers and especially your prospects – don’t care about you. They don’t care about the products you’re selling, and they don’t care about your company. If they did, then they would return your phone calls. They wouldn’t check their phone when you’re talking to them. They’d respond to your direct mail, and they’d get excited about the stuff you’re offering, stuff you know would be good for them.

All the sales advice, all the sales books and whatever other help you find can’t change that. They really don’t care. For the most part, you’re just another added burden – filling their time and mind space with just another agenda item. Your customers want less … not more!

All the sales gurus, sales trainers and sales coaches talk about empathy and relationship selling. But how much is this advice is actually put into action. At the end of the day … you’re probably just selling. You have something to sell and you’re damn sure going to find someone to sell it to.

Unless you’re going to just play the numbers, make enough calls and eventually hope something sticks – it’s only going to get worse. Time and attention is a resource that is rapidly depleting. And every day there’s something new taking their own little piece of it.

Unless you want to be a casualty of this inevitability, you’re going to have to prove to your customers and prospects you truly deserve the they attention they’re willing to give you.

Stress is everywhere

Empathize, really get into their lives. Put down your briefcase, your samples and your sales playbook. That person you’ve targeted is not just a prospect – a way for you to make quota. They’re a person … just like you.  They have families just like you. And those families take priority. They may have a parent that they’re thinking of putting in a nursing home. Their son may have autism. They may be stressing over how they’re going to pay for their daughter’s college. None of these things have any to do with their business or their job – a job they’re trying to subtract from, not add to. In their mind, you are really just another addition – another slice of their time, time they don’t have enough.

Back when I recruited, my candidates had to figure out what effect they had on their last employer. How did they make them money, how did they save them money … and most of all, how did they make their bosses lives easier? Those that focused on the latter, almost always got an offer. All of a sudden the employer looked at the candidate differently. What effect could this person have on their life (personally as well as professionally)? Maybe they would be someone they could depend on so they could see their son play soccer after school – or their daughter’s play. These are things that matter at the end of the day

Print, or whatever you sell, may not make the same impact in a someone’s life that a new employee would – but that doesn’t mean you and your product can’t make an impact. You just have to find that impact. How you can fit into the story in your prospect’s life, and how you can make it a better one?

People don’t buy features, they don’t really even buy ROI. What they buy is what that ROI will do for them and their life, most often their life outside that office they’re sitting in. The best way to learn this is listen. By listening, rather pitching, you’ll find out what’s important to them, and what they’ll react to. I wrote a post a couple of months ago called “The Talking Stick.”  Read it – and you’ll get my point.

It amazes me how telemarketers can be so arrogant. They think that schwag they’re pushing is so important as to call me unsolicited at 9:00 at night. I didn’t give them permission to call me – let alone at the climax of NCIS.

You probably aren’t calling your prospects or even customers at night – but you’re probably calling them when it works for you, not them. How high up on their priority list are you? Probably not as high as you think. Have you taken the time to really get to know who they are and what matters to them? That’s the only way to move up the list.

Have you taken the time to figure out how your “stuff” is going to make your prospect’s life better … not just improve their company’s nebulous ROI, an ROI you may be paying more attention to than they are. In this time of oversaturation of information and choices, businesses that delve into the realities of life and how the personal and professional overlap – will be allowed in their customers lives. Those that don’t will be just another intrusion.

Imagine if one of your suppliers took the time to get to know you … really get to know you. Would you do business with them – would you let that person into your life?

I would guess you would.


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9 thoughts on “Don’t fool yourself … your customers don’t care about you.

  1. This is so true. When I worked sales I told them that people walk through the gym door resdy to buy and buy if they aren’t ready there isn’t a thing you can do. They wanted us calling people all the time. So I did and there was this guy who woulld talk and talk and talk because he was lonely not because he was going to sign up for a membership

  2. I enjoyed reading your article. I have attempted to live this philosophy for years. What it has taught me however is this; every relationship is built upon trust and genuinely sincere interest in the other individual’s needs and desires. Sincere interest breeds sincere interest; it is in their best interest to reciprocate.

    I wholeheartedly believe the wisdom filled words of Theodore Roosevelt, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

    1. Adrian, if that is truly your reaction – then mission accomplished. I wish you luck on your transformation. If you need anything … feel free to ask 🙂

      1. Yes, it is, (a bit exaggerated) it is so true the “depersonalization” of the communication with not only the client, but in everyday life. Good Article! Just retwitted it.

  3. I know Clay, that’s why I thought it was a good idea to write something about “Why I do what I do (and why everyone should care!) 🙂
    You can find the MY story here:
    I hope my “contacts” find it usefull and start caring (or at least start thinking about THEIR big “Why”).
    All the best,
    And I do care about your story.

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